A woman who is living with domestic violence suffers very serious and real effects.
Here are some that have been listed by women.
| Numb | Indecisive | Suspicious | No appetite |
| Insomnia | Stress-related illness | Palpitations | Nervous all the time |
| Used alcohol to deaden the pain | Drugs | Smoked a lot | Bald patches |
| Self mutilation | Asthma | Eat all the time | Frightened of the dark |
| Didn’t care what I looked like | No opinions | Rundown | Just go along with everything |
| Overate and put on so much weight | Tried to fix everything | Forget what I’m talking about | No interest in sex |
| Push everyone away | Can’t cope with anything | Angry all the time | Guilt |
| Lonely | Abandoned and betrayed | No confidence | Just stay home |
| Stopped going out | Lost my friends | Gave up study | Daydream all the time |
| Cleaned compulsively | Tried suicide | Tried to kill my partner | I don’t know who I am anymore |
This information came from a handout called 'The effects abuse has on women', Hamilton Abuse Intervention Pilot Project
Doubts I sit alone here at night
The children fast asleep
And hope that all the decisions
I’ve made are all right
I’ve taken them from their father
Which they won’t forget
But why should I feel the guilt because they
Don’t understand
Yet everything daddy does is ‘just grand’.
I try to make them happy
But they just don’t want to know
Christopher just wants his daddy
And no matter how I try
He just seems to cry and cry
I can’t go back ——I won’t go back
I’ve taken enough mental torture
The decision I’ve made is right
It’s really been the hardest break
In time they’ll know, it was for their sake!
Eilish Bolana
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