You may be becoming or already are a victim of abuse if you:

• Feel like you have to "walk on eggshells" to keep him from getting angry and are frightened by his temper.
• Feel you can't live without him.  
  
• Stop seeing other friends or family, or give up activities you enjoy because he doesn't like them.  
  
• Are afraid to tell him your worries and feelings about the relationship.  
  
• Are often compliant because you are afraid to hurt his feelings; and have the urge to "rescue" him when he is troubled.  
  
• Feel that you are the only one who can help him and that you should try to "reform" him.  
  
• Find yourself apologising to yourself or others for your partner's behavior when you are treated badly.  
  
• Stop expressing opinions if he doesn't agree with them.  
  
• Stay because you feel he will kill himself if you leave.  
  
• Believe that his jealousy is a sign of love.  
  
• Have been kicked, hit, shoved, or had things thrown at you by him when he was jealous or angry.  
  
• Believe the critical things he says to make you feel bad about yourself.  
  
• Believe that there is something wrong with you if you don't enjoy the sexual things he makes you do.  
  
• Believe in the traditional ideas of what a man and a woman should be and do -- that the man makes the decisions and the woman pleases him. (some people)
• Have been abused as a child or seen your mother abused.