Na te whakarongo me te titiro ka puta mai te korero - Through looking and listening we gain wisdom.
We provide services that are accessible, non-judgmental and appropriate. A victim of family violence experiences feelings of isolation, embarrassment, confusion and helplessness. While there aren't any easy answers, there is help! No one should have to live with the threat of violence and abuse.
We offer a range of services to men who are or who have been victims of family violence. All our services for men are free and confidential and are available for as long as they need or want them.
We can help you with:
- Immediate support (by phone or in-person)
- Information and options to help you make informed decisions
- Planning for your safety and the safety of your child/ren
- Crisis counselling
- Support to access other helping agencies.
- Obtaining a protection order. We can tell you how they work and, how to get one including a referral to a Family Court lawyer
- Ongoing one-on-one support by telephone or in-person to achieve your family violence prevention goals
Whāia e koe te iti kahurangi. Ki te tuohu me he maunga teitei — Seek the treasures of your heart, if you bow, let it be to a lofty mountain
Through respect and effective communication, you can improve your relationship with your partner/ex-partner. You can gain an awareness of self and others, including an understanding of the impact that family violence has had on your partner and children.
Programme Outline:
- Abusive practices and thinking
- Beliefs that support abusive practice
- Strategies to manage beliefs and thinking
- Old and new beliefs
- Impact on others
- Safely managing access/custody issues
- Managing children’s behaviour
- The wider family
- Defining abuse
- Problem emotions
- Distress tolerance
- Responding to other's emotions
- The link between alcohol, drugs and family violence
- Peer pressure
- Walking away
- Harm minimisation strategies/urges / cravings
- Mana wahine/mana tāne / mana tamariki in action
- Effective and safe communication skills
- Impact of abuse on others and understanding their behaviour
- Sexual respect
Ko te reo te mauri o te mana Māori — The language is the heart and soul of the mana of Māoridom
This Tikanga Māori programme is group-based, and it uses Māori philosophy, values, knowledge and practices to foster the regeneration of Māori identity and values to encourage the man to address their family violence offending.
The programme encompasses the values of:
Mana
- Mana atua – mana conferred from the gods
- Mana tangata – mana attributed by others
- Mana whenua – mana attributed by the relationship with the land
Mana Wāhine - Te Whare Tangata (the prestige attributed to women). Mana wāhine challenges Maori men to acknowledge Maori women as te whare tangata:
- the strength of whānau through whakapapa – past, present and future
- spiritual leaders mediating between the boundaries tapu and noa and as kaitiaki of Maori spirituality
- celebrating women’s role on the marae including karanga, manaakitanga nga manuhiri, whaikōrero (this varies from iwi to iwi)
- to regain their own identity and whakapapa and share decision-making within the whānau
- repositories of knowledge especially waiata, pakiwaitara, pūrākau, karanga and karakia tapu.
Mana Tāne (the prestige attributed to men) - Mana tāne challenges Maori men to:
- acknowledge mana wāhine/te whare tangata (see mana wāhine/te whare tangata)
- understand and practice kaitiakitanga
- understand and practice manaakitanga
- understand and practice kotahitanga
- understand and practice rangatiratanga
- be motivated to learn te Reo Māori
- understand and practice wairuatanga
- understand whānau as the foundational model for Maori society
- understand and practice whanaungatanga