- Learning that male violence is normal
- Learning that women don't get respect
- Accepting violence in their own relationships
- Embarassed about being female
- Becoming pregnant
- Learning that males are violent
- Learning to disrespect women
- Using violence in his own relationship
- Confusion or insecurity about being a man
- Attacking parents or brothers and sisters
Children aged 5-12 years are involved this way:
- Seeing and hearing it
- Picking one parent to defend
- Physically intervening
- Calling the police
- Running to neighbours for help
- Being used to spy against mum
Children aged 5-12 years are affected this way:
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Fear and insecurity
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Low self-esteem
- Lack of self confidence
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Withdrawal/depression
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Early drug and alcohol use
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Problems at school
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Running away
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Becoming caretaker of adults
Teenagers are involved this way:
- Seeing and hearing it
- Trying to stop the abuse
- Hitting parent or sibling
- Becoming physically abused
- Being used as a spy
- Being used as a confidante
Teenagers are affected this way:
- School and social problems
- Shamed and embarrassed
- Truancy
- Anit-social behaviours
- Tendency for early sexual encounters and beginning of relationships to escape home environment
- Taking on parental responsibilities for younger siblings
- Depression, anxiety, suicide, alcohol/drug use
Are involved this way:
- Seeing it
- Hearing it
- Trying to stop the altercation
- Becoming abused themselves
- Being used as a physical weapon
Are affected this way:
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Acting out violently
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Withdrawal
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Trouble with other kids
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Eating problems
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Nervous. jumpy
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Insecurity, fear, depression