Kia Ora! Tēnā koe! Talofa lava, Kia orana, Malo e lelei, Kumusta, Namaste. Welcome to Family Focus Rotorua. We are here to make a difference for individuals and families/whanau who are experiencing family violence or who are in difficult circumstances. 

  • Learning that male violence is normal
  • Learning that women don't get respect
  • Accepting violence in their own relationships
  • Embarassed about being female
  • Becoming pregnant

 

  • Learning that males are violent
  • Learning to disrespect women
  • Using violence in his own relationship
  • Confusion or insecurity about being a man
  • Attacking parents or brothers and sisters

 

Children aged 5-12 years are involved this way: 
  • Seeing and hearing it
  • Picking one parent to defend
  • Physically intervening
  • Calling the police
  • Running to neighbours for help
  • Being used to spy against mum
Children aged 5-12 years are affected this way: 
  • Fear and insecurity
  • Low self-esteem
  • Lack of self confidence
  • Withdrawal/depression
  • Early drug and alcohol use
  • Problems at school
  • Running away
  • Becoming caretaker of adults

 

 

 

Teenagers are involved this way: 

  • Seeing and hearing it
  • Trying to stop the abuse
  • Hitting parent or sibling
  • Becoming physically abused
  • Being used as a spy
  • Being used as a confidante

Teenagers are affected this way: 

  • School and social problems
  • Shamed and embarrassed
  • Truancy
  • Anit-social behaviours
  • Tendency for early sexual encounters and beginning of relationships to escape home environment
  • Taking on parental responsibilities for younger siblings
  • Depression, anxiety, suicide, alcohol/drug use

 

 

Are involved this way:
  • Seeing it
  • Hearing it
  • Trying to stop the altercation
  • Becoming abused themselves
  • Being used as a physical weapon
Are affected this way:
  • Acting out violently
  • Withdrawal
  • Trouble with other kids
  • Eating problems
  • Nervous. jumpy
  • Insecurity, fear, depression